Ever wonder how your sexual experiences stack up against the average woman’s? We made a list of 30 sex moves, acts, and games you should try (or at least consider) by the time you’re 30. Looking for something a little less racy? Check out Glamour’s book,
30 Sex Tips Every Woman Should Consider by the Time She’s 30
1. Have Sex in a Taboo Place
“Whether it’s in your old bedroom at your parents’ house or on your guy’s desk after office hours, pick a place that makes you feel extra naughty for doing it there,” says sex expert Lora Somoza
Know How to Give Yourself an Orgasm Every Time
If you don’t know how to get
yourself off every time you’re in the mood, how will you ever be able to explain it to your partner? Test out a vibrator, if you’re not using one already, and play around with
different speeds and positions. The better you know yourself, the more fun
you’ll have when you add a guy to the mix.
Explore Your Back Door
With the right guy and a lot of lube, you’d be surprised at how much your thoughts about anal sex might change. Or how the feeling of a finger (or his tongue) nearby can make all other acts all the more appealing. Start by asking him to touch you around the outside, then, if you’re comfortable, give him the go-ahead.
“I know it’s cheesy, but a boyfriend and I used to pretend I was Little Red Riding Hood and he was the Big
Bad Wolf. It was so hot
,” says Gina, 28. More ideas: He’s the sexy stranger sitting next to you on the plane, or he’s your personal masseuse who just has
to have you (after he works out those knots in your shoulders, of course).
Have a One-Night Stand
Yes, of course, duh. There are few things hotter than getting busy with a fling, especially if the chemistry is there. And who says every hookup has to lead to something more? Nobody—so go for it.
Explore His Back Door
Using your fingers anywhere near there will make anything else you do feel 10 times better for him. Try it in the shower if one of you feels shy.
It has to be said, so we’re saying it: Plenty of women like porn, too. If you’re one of them, watch it while you masturbate for a little extra inspiration. The bonus? “It’ll give you some ideas you may want to try with your guy later on,” says Samoza. Or try watching it together; it’ll put you both in the mood.
Tell Him Exactly How to Please You
“Guys aren’t psychic,” Samoza says. If you want him to move his tongue faster, a little to the left, or to keep doing what he’s doing, just tell him. Trust us, he wants your help—in fact, talking about what makes you feel good in bed is incredibly sexy. He’ll be even more turned on, and so will you!
Bond Over Bondage
What can some restraints or handcuffs do for your sex life? A lot, says Samoza. “Allowing your partner to enjoy your body while all you have to do is lie back and experience pleasure can be an incredible experience.” Not to mention that letting someone take complete control actually builds trust and can benefit your relationship. Take terms being the dominant one, and see which role you like better.
Have a Quickie
Rush home during your lunch hour and have your partner meet you. The rest is easy, and so hot: Get naked
, get it on, and then get back to work. Send him a text when you’re both back at the office to keep him thinking about your romp until you see each other again.
Try Some Skype Sex
Just because you’re away on business doesn’t mean sex with your guy has to stop. Telling each other what you want to do to each other (and acting some of those moves out on yourselves) will make it that much hotter when you do see each other in person. Plus, despite physical distance, this is pretty intimate and will bring you two
Send Him a Sexy Text
Get him thinking about you immediately with a flirty text. If you’ve already hooked up, remind him of something that you liked about it. “I can’t stop thinking about your mouth on my neck,” for example, will go long way. (P.S. Feel free
to swap out “neck” for any other part.)
Watch Each Other Masturbate
Aside from the obvious turn-on for him—”Men love to watch women touch themselves,” Samoza says—watching each other can be a valuable learning experience for both of you. Let him see the position and speed of your hands and fingers, and take note of his touch and grip. You both can apply this info to each other later…or right after, if you can’t wait any longer!
Shake Up Your Go-To’s
Missionary or Woman on Top are smart standbys, but it’s fun to experiment with new angles and positions. You never know what is going to feel mind-blowing for you unless you try. You could be big fan of the Reverse Cowgirl and not even know it—yet
Give a Sexy Surprise
Maybe you’re out to dinner with your guy and you let it slip that you’re not wearing any underwear. Or you spontaneously book a night at a local hotel (hotel sex is the best) and ravage him the second the door closes behind you. Big or small, an unexpected surprise will leave you feeling empowered—and what could be sexier than that?
Get Busy Outside
Sometimes the mood just strikes, and when it does, interrupting your make-out session to go find a bed is a bit of a buzzkill. If it’s dark enough and you’re at a secluded beach, wrap a towel around yourselves or head into the ocean for some below-the-water action. Camping? Tuck into your tent—but make sure to turn the flashlight off so you don’t make X-rated shadow puppets!
Get a Little Loud
Everyone hates that neighbor that has the ridiculously loud sex—but let’s be real, that’s mostly because she’s reminding you what you’re not doing right now. Don’t overdo this, because other people DO need their sleep, but at least once feel free to test out those lungs and let your guy, and anyone else in earshot, know you’re having an amazing night.
If You’re Truly Smitten, Have Sex on the First Date
It’s 2016. Sex is on the menu. If you want to do it after one night of sexy conversation, then do it—as long as one of you has protection. Women enjoy sex just as much as men, so forget your grandma’s advice; you won’t “lose the power” and there’s a very real chance that there will be a second date if you both leave satisfied.
Have Silent Sex
“One of my exes had a roommate, and we had to stay really quiet when he was home,” says Erin, 28. “It ended up making things so hot to have to hold in our moans and noises.”
Master the Art of Going Down
For women, giving an amazing blow job
can feel insanely sexy—you’re totally in control, and he can barely think straight it feels so good. On the flip side, there’s nothing sexier than a man who loves (and is good at) going down on a woman. Give him specific instructions rather than just relying on him to read your moans. One lesson is 100 percent worth all orgasms you’ll have.
Amp Up the Foreplay
Getting off can be a lot more difficult for women than it is for men, but you’ll orgasm faster (and harder) with some serious build up. A quickie is fine here and there, but to really have your mind blown, have him slowly touch and kiss you all over before using his mouth and fingers to take you from zero to 10.
Give Him a Lap Dance
Yes, he’s going to be extremely turned on, but watching him drool over you as you strut your sexy stuff will get you going too. And if he’s dying to try out his Magic Mike impression on you—well that’s a no brainer, say yes!
Use a Sex Toy Together
Many women don’t climax from intercourse alone, Samoza reminds us. So don’t be afraid to bring your vibrator or another playful sex toy to bed. An orgasm is an orgasm however you get there—but combining your guy with some extra battery power can make it much more intense for both of you.
Have a Threesome
We’re not saying this is for everyone, but if you’ve been curious for a while, why not test the waters now? A few tips: Talk about it first with your guy to see how he feels. Contrary to popular belief, not every man is craving an extra person in the bedroom. Explain to him what about the idea of it turns you on, talk about whether you’d prefer a female or a male partner, and if he’s into it, game on.
Book a Couples Massage
There’s nothing like being naked in a dimly lit room and totally relaxed to set the stage for some sexy time. A couples massage is the best foreplay you ever spent disposable income on, and also you can always get a little frisky when the masseuses leave the room when it’s all done! (Hey, you’re already naked.)
Quit Faking It
This helps no one. If you’re not enjoying yourself or could be enjoying yourself a whole lot more, you have to come clean—and stop pretending he’s rocking your world. No need to tell him you’re been faking it all along, but put the breaks on the “Oh God, Oh yes, YES YES YES” business and have a real conversation with him about what you like. (Another option: move his hand where you want it.) Any guy worth being with will be open to some sexy
Have Middle-of-the-Night Sex
“When you wake up horny in the middle of the night to have sex and then go back to sleep, the next day it feels like a dream,” says Keri, 29. If he’s already asleep and you’re wide-eyed and in the mood, get things started by touching yourself, then slowly start kissing him until he’s alert—and we don’t just mean his eyes.
Always Be Safe
While it’s crucial to be safe at any age, by 30, using protection should be a no-brainer—you have waaaay too much going on in your life to worry about whether or not he has condoms on hand. So keep your own stash, and talk to your doctor about birth control methods like the pill, implant, and IUD so that you never have to stress. And if he won’t wear a condom
? Kick him to the curb.